I’m not talking about the “happily ever after” kind of marriage, though that’s nice too.
But I’m talking about the type where your spouse tries to take care of you and make you happy every day.
When we were young, our friends used to say the best thing that can happen to us is if we find a trophy wife/husband. They cannot be more wrong.
The goal should NOT be to find a trophy wife/husband. I’ll tell you now that it’s impossible to find.
The goal should be to build a trophy marriage, one that everyone would want to emulate.
It’s hard but it’s entirely possible, and all married couples should strive for that goal.
If you’ve been married many years, think about how your marriage looks now compared with the day they walked down the aisle. And if you’re still single, don’t wait on finding a trophy husband/wife because sometimes what appears as perfect may be too good to be true.
Instead, focus on building a great relationship where both people are trying their best every day to make each other happy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮 𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗽𝗵𝘆 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗴𝗲?
It means being committed in all ways possible: physically, emotionally, financially. Commit to someone who is 100% there for you and will do anything they can to help you succeed in life.
Be supportive of your spouse’s goals. Listen to everything they have to say and offer constructive feedback. Be kind and patient with each other but also firm when necessary. Don’t let anything come between you.
Marriage is not about finding someone who meets all our criteria. It’s about being willing to grow together as we discover more about ourselves.
